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	This book offers a unique [[perspective]] in the [[atheist]] literary [[canon]], because it looks at [[religion]] from a [[poetic]] and functional [[perspective]] rather than a [[literal]] one. It asks "what [[psychological]] functions do [[rituals]] and [[scriptural]] readings serve?" and acknowledges they can have [[positive]] benefits.		This book offers a unique [[perspective]] in the [[atheist]] literary [[canon]], because it looks at [[religion]] from a [[poetic]] and functional [[perspective]] rather than a [[literal]] one. It asks "what [[psychological]] functions do [[rituals]] and [[scriptural]] readings serve?" and acknowledges they can have [[positive]] benefits.

	This [[book]] really helps [[atheists]] and others with scientific worldviews to understand [[scripture]] as [[poetry]] that is not meant to be interpreted [[literally]]. [[Like]] poetry, it contains [[wisdom]] in the way it elicits [[emotional]] [[truths]], and allows for interpretation that helps create [[meaning]].		This [[book]] really helps [[atheists]] and others with [[scientific]] [[Worldview\|worldviews]] to understand [[scripture]] as [[poetry]] that is not meant to be interpreted [[literally]]. [[Like]] [[poetry]], it contains [[wisdom]] in the way it elicits [[emotional]] [[truths]], and allows for interpretation that helps create [[meaning]].

	Rather than clinging to [[tradition]] as many [[secular gurus]] have recently advocated, Hecht constructs a new [[ritual]] [[wikipedia:Liturgy\|liturgy]] and [[poetic]] [[canon]] using her extensive knowledge and [[love]] of [[poetry]] to find [[words]] that can convey the [[necessary]] gravitas when important moments call for it.		Rather than clinging to [[tradition]] as many [[secular gurus]] have recently advocated, Hecht constructs a new [[ritual]] [[wikipedia:Liturgy\|liturgy]] and [[poetic]] [[canon]] using her extensive knowledge and [[love]] of [[poetry]] to find [[words]] that can convey the [[necessary]] gravitas when important moments call for it.

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3. On Gratitude: Tasty Lists

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	This study guide contains brief summaries of the main topic for each chapter, with several discussion questions for each, links to the text for each poem, and timestamps for each poem in the Audible version of the audiobook. This makes it easy to listen to the poems together during your discussion.		This study guide contains brief summaries of the main topic for each chapter, with several discussion questions for each, links to the text for each poem, and timestamps for each poem in the Audible version of the audiobook. This makes it easy to listen to the poems together during your discussion.

	Addressing all of the discussion questions ~~from each~~ chapter will require 4-6 hours. ~~Keep this in mind if~~ you ~~plan~~ to cover the ~~book in a single meeting~~.		Addressing all of the discussion questions for every chapter will require at least 4-6 hours. Be sure to prioritize the topics you want to cover in the time you have available.

	== Introduction ==		== Introduction ==

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	This study guide contains brief summaries of the main topic for each chapter, with several discussion questions for each, links to the text for each poem, and timestamps for each poem in the Audible version of the audiobook. This makes it easy to listen to the poems together during your discussion.		This study guide contains brief summaries of the main topic for each chapter, with several discussion questions for each, links to the text for each poem, and timestamps for each poem in the Audible version of the audiobook. This makes it easy to listen to the poems together during your discussion.

	Addressing all of the discussion questions from each chapter will require 4-6 hours ~~total~~. Keep this in mind if you plan to cover the book in a single meeting.		Addressing all of the discussion questions from each chapter will require 4-6 hours. Keep this in mind if you plan to cover the book in a single meeting.

	== Introduction ==		== Introduction ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.yourdailypoem.com/listpoem.jsp?poem_id=268 Married Love by Guan Daosheng]		* [https://www.yourdailypoem.com/listpoem.jsp?poem_id=268 Married Love by Guan Daosheng] (16:13)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poems/49493/i-carry-your-heart-with-mei-carry-it-in <nowiki>[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in] by E. E. Cummings</nowiki>]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poems/49493/i-carry-your-heart-with-mei-carry-it-in <nowiki>[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in] by E. E. Cummings</nowiki>] (24:25)

	== 12. Babies ==		== 12. Babies ==
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	* [https://www.virtuesforlife.com/rumi-you-were-born-with-wings/ You Were Born With Wings by Rumi]		* [https://www.virtuesforlife.com/rumi-you-were-born-with-wings/ You Were Born With Wings by Rumi] (16:13)

	== 13. Coming of Age ==		== 13. Coming of Age ==
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	* Nonsense poems		* Nonsense poems
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/42916/jabberwocky Jabberwocky by Lewis Carroll]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/42916/jabberwocky Jabberwocky by Lewis Carroll] (13:47)

	== 14. Love ==		== 14. Love ==
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	* [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Song%20of%20Solomon%201&version=ESV Song of Solomon]		* [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Song%20of%20Solomon%201&version=ESV Song of Solomon] (10:35)
	* I'm Glad You've Lost Your Mind Over Someone and It's Not Me (link not available)		* I'm Glad You've Lost Your Mind Over Someone and It's Not Me by Marina Tsvetaeva (link not available) (25:10)
			* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44468/bright-star-would-i-were-stedfast-as-thou-art Bright Star by John Keats] (32:40)

	== 15. Funerals and Memorials ==		== 15. Funerals and Memorials ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://condofire.com/2014/02/18/poem-of-the-week-love-sonnet-lxxxix-pablo-neruda-via-alison-mcghee/ Love Sonnet LXXXIX by Pablo Neruda]		* [https://condofire.com/2014/02/18/poem-of-the-week-love-sonnet-lxxxix-pablo-neruda-via-alison-mcghee/ Love Sonnet LXXXIX by Pablo Neruda] (17:50)

	== 16. Depression and Misery ==		== 16. Depression and Misery ==
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	* [https://www.bookfrom.net/anisur-rahman/page,12,468135-hazaron_khawaishen_aisi.html Let Your Name Touch Her Lips by Ada Jafarey]		* [https://www.bookfrom.net/anisur-rahman/page,12,468135-hazaron_khawaishen_aisi.html Let Your Name Touch Her Lips by Ada Jafarey] (17:40)

	== 17. Recovering from Political Loss ==		== 17. Recovering from Political Loss ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46446/still-i-rise Still I Rise by Maya Angelou]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46446/still-i-rise Still I Rise by Maya Angelou] (14:22)

	== 18. Choosing a Code to Live By ==		== 18. Choosing a Code to Live By ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://~~poets~~.org/~~poem~~/~~choir~~-~~invisible The Choir Invisible~~ by ~~George Eliot~~]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46473/if--- If-- by Ruyard Kipling] (3:10)
	* [https://www.~~poetryfoundation~~.~~org~~/~~poems~~/~~46473/if~~--- ~~If--~~ by ~~Ruyard Kipling~~]		* [https://www.bibleref.com/biblepassage/?search=Ecclesiastes_3:1-22 Ecclesiastes 3:1-1:5] (16:05)
			* [https://poets.org/poem/choir-invisible The Choir Invisible by George Eliot] (18:38)

	== 19. Talking to Children and Heavenlessness ==		== 19. Talking to Children and Heavenlessness ==
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	* [https://graphitepublishing.com/product/o-beautiful-end/ O Beautiful End by Rabindranath Tagore]		* [https://graphitepublishing.com/product/o-beautiful-end/ O Beautiful End by Rabindranath Tagore] (19:25)

	== 20. Morality ==		== 20. Morality ==
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	* [https://www.ayearofbeinghere.com/2014/05/chinua-achebe-mother-in-refugee-camp.html Mother in a Refugee Camp by Chinua Achebe]		* [https://www.ayearofbeinghere.com/2014/05/chinua-achebe-mother-in-refugee-camp.html Mother in a Refugee Camp by Chinua Achebe] (19:28)

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	=== Author Interviews ===		=== Author Interviews ===

	These interviews with the [[author]] can help refresh you on the [[ideas]] that were presented in the [[book]], or a good summary for those who failed to finish reading it!		These interviews with the [[author]] can help refresh you on the [[ideas]] that were presented in the [[book]], or give a good summary for those who failed to finish reading it!

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	[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60784756-the-wonder-paradox The Wonder Paradox] was written in order to suggest a template for [[secular]] [[rituals]] that can substitute for the many holidays, [[life]] celebrations, and daily affirmations that [[religion]] provides.		[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60784756-the-wonder-paradox The Wonder Paradox] was written in order to suggest a template for [[secular]] [[rituals]] that can substitute for the many holidays, [[life]] celebrations, and daily affirmations that [[religion]] provides.

	It makes an excellent out-of-the-box book club read for [[Secular institutions\|secular groups]], whose ~~[[book]] clubs~~ usually tend towards the more [[scientific]] and cerebral than the [[poetic]].		It makes an excellent out-of-the-box book club read for [[Secular institutions\|secular groups]], whose selections usually tend towards the more [[scientific]] and cerebral than the [[poetic]].

	It offers a lot of fodder for interesting new discussions that will challenge your preconceptions about the purpose and importance of [[religious]] [[Ritual\|rituals]] and [[scriptural]] [[poetry]].		It offers a lot of fodder for interesting new discussions that will challenge your preconceptions about the purpose and importance of [[religious]] [[Ritual\|rituals]] and [[scriptural]] [[poetry]].

			This study guide contains brief summaries of the main topic for each chapter, with several discussion questions for each, links to the text for each poem, and timestamps for each poem in the Audible version of the audiobook. This makes it easy to listen to the poems together during your discussion.

			Addressing all of the discussion questions from each chapter will require 4-6 hours total. Keep this in mind if you plan to cover the book in a single meeting.

	== Introduction ==		== Introduction ==
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	This [[book]] really helps [[atheists]] and others with scientific worldviews to understand [[scripture]] as [[poetry]] that is not meant to be interpreted [[literally]]. [[Like]] poetry, it contains [[wisdom]] in the way it elicits [[emotional]] [[truths]], and allows for interpretation that helps create [[meaning]].		This [[book]] really helps [[atheists]] and others with scientific worldviews to understand [[scripture]] as [[poetry]] that is not meant to be interpreted [[literally]]. [[Like]] poetry, it contains [[wisdom]] in the way it elicits [[emotional]] [[truths]], and allows for interpretation that helps create [[meaning]].

	Rather than clinging to [[tradition]] as many [[secular gurus]] have recently advocated, Hecht constructs a new [[ritual]] [[wikipedia:Liturgy\|liturgy]] and poetic [[canon]] using her extensive knowledge and [[love]] of poetry to find [[words]] that can convey the [[necessary]] gravitas when important moments call for it.		Rather than clinging to [[tradition]] as many [[secular gurus]] have recently advocated, Hecht constructs a new [[ritual]] [[wikipedia:Liturgy\|liturgy]] and [[poetic]] [[canon]] using her extensive knowledge and [[love]] of [[poetry]] to find [[words]] that can convey the [[necessary]] gravitas when important moments call for it.

	=== Author Interviews ===		=== Author Interviews ===

	These interviews with the [[author]] can help refresh you on the [[ideas]] that were presented in the book, or a good summary for those who failed to finish reading it!		These interviews with the [[author]] can help refresh you on the [[ideas]] that were presented in the [[book]], or a good summary for those who failed to finish reading it!

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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/58815/traveler-your-footprints Traveler There Is No Road by Antonio Machado]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/58815/traveler-your-footprints Traveler There Is No Road by Antonio Machado] (11:25)

	== 2. Eating ==		== 2. Eating ==
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	* Did your [[family]] say prayers before meals?		* Did your [[family]] say prayers before meals?
	* Do any of you currently practice a gratitude ritual before meals?		* Do any of you currently practice a gratitude [[ritual]] before meals?
	* What about Thanksgiving, holidays, or banquets? Do you offer words of gratitude on these occasions?		* What about Thanksgiving, holidays, or banquets? Do you offer words of gratitude on these occasions?
	* Can a moment of reflection before [[eating]] help with [[diet]] or eating disorders?		* Can a moment of reflection before [[eating]] help with [[diet]] or [[eating]] disorders?
	* What are the missing words in "Not only the sugar, but the days, to hold"?		* What are the missing words in "Not only the sugar, but the days, to hold"?

	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43012/from-blossoms From Blossoms by Li-Young Lee]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43012/from-blossoms From Blossoms by Li-Young Lee] (14:10)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44272/the-road-not-taken The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/44272/the-road-not-taken The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost] (17:50)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/56593/a-bird-came-down-the-walk-359 A Bird, came down the walk by Emily Dickinson]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/56593/a-bird-came-down-the-walk-359 A Bird, came down the walk by Emily Dickinson] (28:22)
	* [https://www.empoweredstl.org/courageinactionblog/k8yuhtr76c6s58w3368kamhw0mxit2 Wild Geese by Mary Oliver]		* [https://www.empoweredstl.org/courageinactionblog/k8yuhtr76c6s58w3368kamhw0mxit2 Wild Geese by Mary Oliver] (30:10)

	== 3. Gratitude ==		== 3. Gratitude ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.cincinnatireview.com/what-were-reading/what-were-reading-inger-christensens-alphabet/ Alphabet by Inger Christensen] (full poem is a book)		* [https://www.cincinnatireview.com/what-were-reading/what-were-reading-inger-christensens-alphabet/ Alphabet by Inger Christensen] (full poem is a book) (11:53)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/mark-strand Mark Strand] poem (link not available)		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/mark-strand Mark Strand] poem (link not available) (27:25)

	== 4. Sleep ==		== 4. Sleep ==
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	* The Sleep that Comes Over Me		* The Sleep that Comes Over Me by Fernando Pessoa (link not available) (18:19)

	== 5. Meditation ==		== 5. Meditation ==
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	* [https://www.bostonreview.net/articles/thylias-moss-wannabe-hoochie-mama/ Wannabe Hoochie Mama Gallery of Realities’ Red Dress Code by Thylias Moss]		* [https://www.bostonreview.net/articles/thylias-moss-wannabe-hoochie-mama/ Wannabe Hoochie Mama Gallery of Realities’ Red Dress Code by Thylias Moss] (14:32)

	== 6. Happier Holidays ==		== 6. Happier Holidays ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47809/after-the-gentle-poet-kobayashi-issa New Year’s morning by Kobyashi Issa]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47809/after-the-gentle-poet-kobayashi-issa New Year’s morning by Kobyashi Issa] (15:10)
	* Holiday poem template / "Christmas Cabinet"		* Holiday poem template / "Christmas Cabinet"

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	* [https://www.tweetspeakpoetry.com/2014/04/16/national-poetry-month-wislawa-szymborskas-could-have/ Could Have by Wislawa Szymborskas]		* [https://www.tweetspeakpoetry.com/2014/04/16/national-poetry-month-wislawa-szymborskas-could-have/ Could Have by Wislawa Szymborskas] (13:52)

	== 8. Shame, Regret, Guilt, and Grace ==		== 8. Shame, Regret, Guilt, and Grace ==
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	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45090/sonnet-29-when-in-disgrace-with-fortune-and-mens-eyes Sonnet 29 by William Shakespeare]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45090/sonnet-29-when-in-disgrace-with-fortune-and-mens-eyes Sonnet 29 by William Shakespeare] (16:45)

	== 9. Sabbaths and Fool's Days ==		== 9. Sabbaths and Fool's Days ==
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	* [https://poets.org/poem/things-i-didnt-know-i-loved Things I Didn't Know I Loved by Nâzim Hikmet]		* [https://poets.org/poem/things-i-didnt-know-i-loved Things I Didn't Know I Loved by Nâzim Hikmet] (15:35)

	== 10. Earth Day, Rebirth, Climate Change ==		== 10. Earth Day, Rebirth, Climate Change ==
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	=== Poems ===		=== Poems ===

	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/49619/when-the-world-as-we-knew-it-ended When the World as we Knew It Ended by Joy Harjo]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/49619/when-the-world-as-we-knew-it-ended When the World as we Knew It Ended by Joy Harjo] (13:30)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43991/kubla-khan Kubla Khan by Samuel Taylor Coleridge]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43991/kubla-khan Kubla Khan by Samuel Taylor Coleridge] (25:30)
	* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46565/ozymandias Ozymandius by Percy Bysshe Shelley]		* [https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46565/ozymandias Ozymandius by Percy Bysshe Shelley] (29:15)

	== 11. Weddings ==		== 11. Weddings ==

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	== 2. Eating ==		== 2. Eating ==
	Many [[religions]] encourage saying a prayer before meals, especially holiday meals and banquets. These practices can help us appreciate our [[food]] and the [[complex]] [[natural]] and human systems that have produced the abundance we currently enjoy.		Many [[religions]] encourage saying a prayer before [[meals]], especially holiday [[meals]] and banquets. These [[practices]] can help us appreciate our [[food]] and the [[complex]] [[natural]] and human systems that have produced the abundance we currently enjoy.

	=== Discussion Questions ===		=== Discussion Questions ===

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	[[File:The-wonder-paradox-cover.jpg\|thumb\|[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60784756-the-wonder-paradox The Wonder Paradox on Goodreads]]]		[[File:The-wonder-paradox-cover.jpg\|thumb\|[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60784756-the-wonder-paradox The Wonder Paradox on Goodreads]]]
	The [[Wonder]~~] Paradox~~ was written in order to suggest a template for [[secular]] [[rituals]] that can substitute for the many holidays, [[life]] celebrations, and daily affirmations that [[religion]] provides.		[https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60784756-the-wonder-paradox The Wonder Paradox] was written in order to suggest a template for [[secular]] [[rituals]] that can substitute for the many holidays, [[life]] celebrations, and daily affirmations that [[religion]] provides.

	It makes an excellent out-of-the-box book club read for [[Secular institutions\|secular groups]], whose [[book]] clubs usually tend towards the more [[scientific]] and cerebral than the [[poetic]].		It makes an excellent out-of-the-box book club read for [[Secular institutions\|secular groups]], whose [[book]] clubs usually tend towards the more [[scientific]] and cerebral than the [[poetic]].

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	== 3. On Gratitude: Tasty Lists ==		== 3. On Gratitude: Tasty Lists ==
	Many scientific studies have shown that practices cultivating gratitude have a huge benefit to our [[happiness]]. Prayers of gratitude are a part of every religion in some form.		Many scientific studies have shown that practices cultivating gratitude have a huge benefit to our [[happiness]]. Prayers of gratitude are a part of every [[religion]] in some form.

	=== Discussion Questions ===		=== Discussion Questions ===

	* Do you ever feel the need to thank the [[universe]] for being awesome and giving you [[consciousness]]?		* Do you ever feel the need to thank the [[universe]] for being awesome and giving you [[consciousness]]?
	* Do humanists have a responsibility to cultivate generosity?		* Do [[Secular humanist\|humanists]] have a responsibility to cultivate generosity?
	* Who has kept a gratitude journal? What was your [[experience]]?		* Who has kept a gratitude journal? What was your [[experience]]?
	* "If you aren't in love with late-[[capitalism]], why are you letting it store all its stuff at your place?"		* "If you aren't in [[love]] with late-[[capitalism]], why are you letting it [[Monetary addiction\|store all its stuff at your place]]?"
	* Is a [[poem]] better if its stanzas follow a [[mathematical]] pattern like the Fibonacci sequence?		* Is a [[poem]] better if its stanzas follow a [[mathematical]] pattern like the [[wikipedia:Fibonacci_sequence\|Fibonacci sequence]]?
	* What's in your cosmic gratitude poem?		* What's in your cosmic gratitude poem?

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	== 15. Funerals and Memorials ==		== 15. Funerals and Memorials ==
	[[Funerals]] are traumatic for many secular people who find themselves being proselytized to in times of grief, often by a [[religious]] figure who did not know the deceased well, and often against their expressed wishes.		[[Funerals]] are traumatic for many [[secular]] people who find themselves being proselytized to in times of grief, often by a [[religious]] figure who did not know the deceased well, and often against their expressed wishes.

	Rituals for grieving and mourning can give direction to the process that leads ultimately to closure. Without these rituals, it is easier to become stuck in cycles of rumination or [[emotional]] suppression.		[[Rituals]] for grieving and mourning can give direction to the process that leads ultimately to closure. Without these rituals, it is easier to become stuck in cycles of rumination or [[emotional]] suppression.

	=== Discussion Questions ===		=== Discussion Questions ===
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	* How do funerals help bring us closure and process grief?		* How do funerals help bring us closure and process grief?
	* How does performing the specific liturgical steps, the viewing, the eulogies, the burial, the wake, the receiving of casseroles, signal that the grieving process is completed?		* How does performing the specific liturgical steps, the viewing, the eulogies, the burial, the wake, the receiving of casseroles, signal that the grieving process is completed?
			* Can "wearing black" during mourning help you get closure when you decide to wear colors again?
	* Do you agree with her "cultural liturgy" for funerals?		* Do you agree with her "cultural liturgy" for funerals?
	* How can poetry help us express strong [[emotions]] in times of grief?		* How can poetry help us express strong [[emotions]] in times of grief?