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Fractalguy: /* The Importance of Relationships */

2025-11-29T19:03:11Z

The Importance of Relationships

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	{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0\|\|center\|How to Choose a Partner Wisely\|frame}}		{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0\|\|center\|How to Choose a Partner Wisely\|frame}}
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			{{#ev:youtube\|https://youtu.be/vY9j7NL-ryk\|\|center\|Why do Brains Need Friends?\|frame}}

	== Friendly Music ==		== Friendly Music ==

Fractalguy at 11:20, 30 July 2025

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	== The Loneliness Epidemic ==		== The Loneliness Epidemic ==
	[https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it This episode of Plain English with Derek Thompson] is an excellent discussion on the crisis of loneliness in modern [[society]] and what can be done to rebuild [[community]] and provide more opportunities for IRL friendships. [https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it ‘The Anti-Social Century’: America’s Epidemic of Solitude—and How to Fix It]		[https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it This episode of Plain English with Derek Thompson] is an excellent discussion on the crisis of loneliness in modern [[society]] and what can be done to rebuild [[community]] and provide more opportunities for IRL friendships. [https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it ‘The Anti-Social Century’: America’s Epidemic of Solitude—and How to Fix It]

			== Social Fitness is Like Physical Fitness ==
			Cultivating good relationships needs to become a regular [[habit]]. Thinking of it like a fitness routine can help with this. Staying fit is easiest when it's part of a regular routine that happens several days a week if not every day. Making a point to reach out to people whose relationships you value is the way to maintain them, and like any behavior it requires [[reinforcement]].

			This makes three things you need to [[exercise]] regularly: your [[brain]], your body, and your relationships. Incorporate good [[habits]] for all three and [[happiness]] is pretty much guaranteed.

	== The Importance of Relationships ==		== The Importance of Relationships ==

Fractalguy: /* The Importance of Relationships */

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The Importance of Relationships

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	== The Importance of Relationships ==		== The Importance of Relationships ==
	The quality of your relationships correlates directly with [[quality of life]], and is the most important factor for [[happiness and well-being]].{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI\|\|center\|What Makes a Good Life?\|frame}}		The quality of your relationships correlates directly with [[quality of life]], and is the most important factor for [[happiness and well-being]].{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI\|\|center\|What Makes a Good Life?\|frame}}
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			A longer interview with Robert Waldinger from Big Think that really dives into the details of how good relationships improve our [[happiness]] and how to cultivate them.
			{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CxmzkYPvsg\|\|center\|What 85 years of research says is the real key to happiness\|frame}}
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	{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0\|\|center\|How to Choose a Partner Wisely\|frame}}		{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0\|\|center\|How to Choose a Partner Wisely\|frame}}

Fractalguy: /* Internet Strangers Don't Care About You */

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Internet Strangers Don't Care About You

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	This isn't to say that there aren't situations where this is the appropriate response. But, our current [[culture]] prioritizes independence and intolerance of toxic behavior over commitment, [[loyalty]], forgiveness, and the [[idea]] that people can grow and change. This has not always worked out in favor of [[love]].		This isn't to say that there aren't situations where this is the appropriate response. But, our current [[culture]] prioritizes independence and intolerance of toxic behavior over commitment, [[loyalty]], forgiveness, and the [[idea]] that people can grow and change. This has not always worked out in favor of [[love]].

			This article by Allie Volpe [https://www.vox.com/even-better/390576/protecting-your-peace-relationships-conflict-avoidance-individualism How “Protecting your peace” can kill your friendships] makes this point very well.

	== The Loneliness Epidemic ==		== The Loneliness Epidemic ==

Fractalguy: /* Internet Strangers Don't Care About You */

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Internet Strangers Don't Care About You

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	Too many people [[believe]] they can get impartial advice from anonymous strangers on the internet. Nothing can be further from the [[truth]].		Too many people [[believe]] they can get impartial advice from anonymous strangers on the internet. Nothing can be further from the [[truth]].

	Relationship advice columns were a staple of the newspapers, which have no been replaced with [[social media]]. When you wrote a letter to [[wikipedia:Dear_Abby\|Dear Abby]], you got a response from someone who offers relationship advice professionally. When you ask a forum of strangers on the internet, you are likely to get advice from teenagers who have never had a long-term relationship. Teenagers have unlimited [[time]], and a huge propensity for [[trolling]]. You should assume anyone on the internet is under 16 years old unless proven otherwise.		Relationship advice columns were a staple of the newspapers, which have now been replaced with [[social media]]. When you wrote a letter to [[wikipedia:Dear_Abby\|Dear Abby]], you got a response from someone who offers relationship advice professionally. When you ask a forum of strangers on the internet, you are likely to get advice from teenagers who have never had a long-term relationship. Teenagers have unlimited [[time]], and a huge propensity for [[trolling]]. You should assume anyone on the internet is under 16 years old unless proven otherwise.

	Besides the teenager problem, there are other biases in [[play]]:		Besides the teenager problem, there are other biases in [[play]]:
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	# If you want to break up, [[just]] do it. Why do you need strangers to talk you into it?		# If you want to break up, [[just]] do it. Why do you need strangers to talk you into it?

	If you ask [[social media]] about a relationship issue, the only advice you can expect to receive is to break up and go no contact. This is the default response for romantic relationships, friendships, and even family.		If you ask [[social media]] about a relationship issue, the only advice you can expect to receive is to break up and go no contact. This is the default response for [[romantic]] relationships, friendships, and even [[family]].

	This isn't to say that there aren't situations where this is the appropriate response. But, our current [[culture]] prioritizes independence and intolerance of toxic behavior over commitment, [[loyalty]], forgiveness, and the [[idea]] that people can grow and change. This has not always worked out in favor of love.		This isn't to say that there aren't situations where this is the appropriate response. But, our current [[culture]] prioritizes independence and intolerance of toxic behavior over commitment, [[loyalty]], forgiveness, and the [[idea]] that people can grow and change. This has not always worked out in favor of [[love]].

	== The Loneliness Epidemic ==		== The Loneliness Epidemic ==

Fractalguy: Internet Strangers Don't Care

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Internet Strangers Don't Care

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 [[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg|thumb|[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLisEEwYZvw "I'll be there for you...."]]]
-[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex|partner]] and [[family]].<blockquote>''"But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls."''  -[[wikipedia:Kahlil_Gibran|Khalil Gibran]]</blockquote>Since the Internet is full of relationship advice, developing this page is a low priority. However, every bit of [[evidence]] suggests developing relationships should be your highest priority if you want to be [[happy]].
+[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex|partner]] and [[family]].<blockquote>''"But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens [[dance]] between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls."''  -[[wikipedia:Kahlil_Gibran|Khalil Gibran]]</blockquote>Since the Internet is full of relationship advice, developing this page is a low priority. However, every bit of [[evidence]] suggests developing relationships should be your highest priority if you want to be [[happy]].
-Determining who is going to provide good relationship advice and who is not is important. For example, [[wikipedia:Andrew_Huberman|Andrew Huberman]] offers a lot of relationship advice, but [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/mar/28/podcaster-andrew-huberman-goop-for-bros recent revelations about his personal life] have undermined most of it. The fact that he doesn't always practice what he preaches is hardly unique to him, and there may be some "[[wikipedia:Don't_throw_the_baby_out_with_the_bathwater|throwing the baby out with the bathwater]]" going on. At the same time, there are plenty of great content creators out there without these shortcomings who are saying the same things. Long story short, the Huberman video offering relationship advice on this page has been replaced.
+== Whose Relationship Advice Should You Trust? ==
 [https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it This episode of Plain English with Derek Thompson] is an excellent discussion on the crisis of loneliness in modern [[society]] and what can be done to rebuild [[community]] and provide more opportunities for IRL friendships. [https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it ‘The Anti-Social Century’: America’s Epidemic of Solitude—and How to Fix It]
-{{#ev:youtube|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI||center|What Makes a Good Life?|frame}}
+== The Importance of Relationships ==
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 {{#ev:youtube|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0||center|How to Choose a Partner Wisely|frame}}

Fractalguy at 23:12, 8 February 2025

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	[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLisEEwYZvw "I'll be there for you...."]]]		[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLisEEwYZvw "I'll be there for you...."]]]
	[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].		[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].<blockquote>''"But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls."'' -[[wikipedia:Kahlil_Gibran\|Khalil Gibran]]</blockquote>Since the Internet is full of relationship advice, developing this page is a low priority. However, every bit of [[evidence]] suggests developing relationships should be your highest priority if you want to be [[happy]].

	Since the Internet is full of relationship advice, developing this page is a low priority. However, every bit of [[evidence]] suggests developing relationships should be your highest priority if you want to be [[happy]].

	Determining who is going to provide good relationship advice and who is not is important. For example, [[wikipedia:Andrew_Huberman\|Andrew Huberman]] offers a lot of relationship advice, but [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/mar/28/podcaster-andrew-huberman-goop-for-bros recent revelations about his personal life] have undermined most of it. The fact that he doesn't always practice what he preaches is hardly unique to him, and there may be some "[[wikipedia:Don't_throw_the_baby_out_with_the_bathwater\|throwing the baby out with the bathwater]]" going on. At the same time, there are plenty of great content creators out there without these shortcomings who are saying the same things. Long story short, the Huberman video offering relationship advice on this page has been replaced.		Determining who is going to provide good relationship advice and who is not is important. For example, [[wikipedia:Andrew_Huberman\|Andrew Huberman]] offers a lot of relationship advice, but [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/mar/28/podcaster-andrew-huberman-goop-for-bros recent revelations about his personal life] have undermined most of it. The fact that he doesn't always practice what he preaches is hardly unique to him, and there may be some "[[wikipedia:Don't_throw_the_baby_out_with_the_bathwater\|throwing the baby out with the bathwater]]" going on. At the same time, there are plenty of great content creators out there without these shortcomings who are saying the same things. Long story short, the Huberman video offering relationship advice on this page has been replaced.

Fractalguy at 15:23, 11 January 2025

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	[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|[https://~~youtu~~.be/~~mh8MIp2FOhc~~ "I'll be there for you...."]]]		[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLisEEwYZvw "I'll be there for you...."]]]
	[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].		[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].

Fractalguy at 15:22, 11 January 2025

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	[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|"I'll be there for you...."]]		[[File:Relationships-friends-best-practices-evidence-science-psychology.jpg\|thumb\|[https://youtu.be/mh8MIp2FOhc "I'll be there for you...."]]]
	[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].		[[Evidence-Based Best Practices]] for maintaining friendships and [[love]] relationships between your [[Sex\|partner]] and [[family]].

Fractalguy at 15:20, 11 January 2025

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	Determining who is going to provide good relationship advice and who is not is important. For example, [[wikipedia:Andrew_Huberman\|Andrew Huberman]] offers a lot of relationship advice, but [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/mar/28/podcaster-andrew-huberman-goop-for-bros recent revelations about his personal life] have undermined most of it. The fact that he doesn't always practice what he preaches is hardly unique to him, and there may be some "[[wikipedia:Don't_throw_the_baby_out_with_the_bathwater\|throwing the baby out with the bathwater]]" going on. At the same time, there are plenty of great content creators out there without these shortcomings who are saying the same things. Long story short, the Huberman video offering relationship advice on this page has been replaced.		Determining who is going to provide good relationship advice and who is not is important. For example, [[wikipedia:Andrew_Huberman\|Andrew Huberman]] offers a lot of relationship advice, but [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/mar/28/podcaster-andrew-huberman-goop-for-bros recent revelations about his personal life] have undermined most of it. The fact that he doesn't always practice what he preaches is hardly unique to him, and there may be some "[[wikipedia:Don't_throw_the_baby_out_with_the_bathwater\|throwing the baby out with the bathwater]]" going on. At the same time, there are plenty of great content creators out there without these shortcomings who are saying the same things. Long story short, the Huberman video offering relationship advice on this page has been replaced.

			[https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it This episode of Plain English with Derek Thompson] is an excellent discussion on the crisis of loneliness in modern [[society]] and what can be done to rebuild [[community]] and provide more opportunities for IRL friendships. [https://www.theringer.com/podcasts/plain-english-with-derek-thompson/2025/01/10/the-anti-social-century-americas-epidemic-of-solitude-and-how-to-fix-it ‘The Anti-Social Century’: America’s Epidemic of Solitude—and How to Fix It]

	{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI\|\|center\|What Makes a Good Life?\|frame}}		{{#ev:youtube\|https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KkKuTCFvzI\|\|center\|What Makes a Good Life?\|frame}}